I usually walk my dogs in the morning and in the evening. This morning we were about four blocks from home when I noticed something that changed my entire day. My depth perception was incredible. I had to stop and appreciate it.

That may not seem like a big deal to you. When I was a kid, I didn’t have good depth perception. It made catching a ball difficult. I remember wondering if people saw things differently than I did. I thought that I could tell that something was further away than something else, but I didn’t know if that was what everyone saw.

To catch a football I watched its trajectory. As a friend told me decades later, your brain was doing calculus to determine where to go. Maybe. Or maybe it was just guess and check.

To have depth perception, the brain must put together the two images from our eyes. When I was in grade school, our eyes were tested using a machine. I could see the letters with both eyes. I was asked to watch an apple tree to see if the apple fell on the picnic table. It didn’t. They repeated the test. I closed one eye and learned that the tree was in one eye and the picnic table was in the other. My brain wasn’t putting them together.

After graduating from chiropractic college, I followed Dr. Art Thompson in his private practice. Dr. Thompson took 3-D x-rays. He had an X-ray machine that was capable of moving the central ray left and right to simulate the separation of our eyes. The films were developed and placed in view boxes facing each other. He looked at the films using mirrors. Left eye looked at the film to the left and right eye looked at the film to the right. That separation gave him 3-D vision.

I bought a similar X-ray system. Through practice I developed 3-D vision. I remember walking home one night and seeing downtown Bellingham from a hill. It was the first time I was sure I was seeing 3-D.

Today was similar to that experience decades ago. I looked down streets. I looked up at the clouds. I looked at Drayton Harbor. It was fantastic!

My wife and I were having coffee and I told her my experience. She could relate. She still remembers getting her first pair of glasses when she was a kid. Suddenly she saw leaves on trees for the first time. She had just seen green before the glasses.

For the last ten years or so, I have experienced double vision. It comes and goes. It seems to be related to the position of my head. If I turn my head slightly it clears. I’ve suspected it has to do with my upper cervical subluxation. My subluxation is being corrected and my vision and blood pressure are improving.

Double vision has been interesting. It isn’t just a matter of seeing double, although sometimes it is. Two images can be overlayed. It can look like someone to my right is in front of me.

In addition, I’ve had trouble seeing with my head turned to right or left to the extremes. For example, I was having trouble seeing my grandkids in the back seat of the car without turning my body. That has also improved.

Think about how amazing it is that light from our surroundings goes into our eyes. It is detected by the retinae. Messages are sent via the optic nerves to the brain. Somehow that is converted to what we see as our environment.

If there is any interruption in that system, the image can be distorted. If people hallucinate, they see things that we don’t see.

What is reality? It is probably neither what I saw today nor what I usually see. What I see is something that is made up to help me have a better experience. Today’s experience was awe inspiring.

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No matter what your goals are, they start somewhere. Are they your goals or someone else’s? Find out by asking yourself why?

I attended a happy hour for real estate brokers. I was talking with a colleague who told me that she was an evangelical Christian. She told me that something big was going to happen on a certain date. I asked her how her life would change if it didn’t happen. She hadn’t thought about it.

You might not see that as containing a why, but it does. Why believe something? Does your belief change your life? If not, why believe it?

I don’t remember the author, but someone gave me the idea of the true self and the false self. I’ve seen the basic idea in different places and with different names.

I like to think of the true self as your spirit. Your spirit can choose what to believe. Or your spirit can take a break and let your false self control.

Think of your false self as all the programming you have acquired during your life. Are your goals from your spirit (true self) or from your programming (false self)?

A patient is a great example. She was middle aged and having trouble moving. I watched her get out of a chair and stand for a minute before walking. She was also overweight. She and her husband were sitting in my small consultation room.

After introductions, I asked, “How can I help you?”

Patient, “I need to lose weight.”

Me, “You came to me to lose weight?”

Patient, “No. I’m having trouble moving and everybody tells me that it’s because I need to lose weight.”

Me, “I haven’t examined you. I don’t know if you need to lose weight or not.”

Husband, “I don’t care if she loses an ounce. I just want my wife back.”

Do you notice what was happening? She wanted to feel better and move better. She was setting a goal of losing weight because that is what “everybody” told her. Her true self wanted to have a happy life. Her false self was following what everybody had told her.

I told her the basis of my practice: “You are an intelligence using your brain and nervous system to control your body. If the bones in your spine become misaligned, they can interfere with your nervous system, and it doesn’t respond properly. We call that problem a subluxation. I correct the subluxation. Your nervous system begins to work properly, and you heal yourself.”

Her husband spoke for the first time. “Any doctor who doesn’t believe that is a fool.”

In a few weeks he had his wife back. In six months, she was able to help him place pavers in their driveway. She never lost a pound.

One day she was telling me about the dinner they had at a restaurant. She went into a lot of detail. She described how the food was prepared. How it looked. How the cook drizzled dressing on the salad. It was obvious that she enjoyed food. Imagine how miserable she would have been if she stuck to the goal of losing weight.

The point is to be clear on your goal. Where did you get the idea for the goal? Why do you want it? What will happen if you don’t get it?

The next step is to take action. I have experienced things just happening in my life, but most people find it takes action to take a goal from visualization to realization.

Imagine your goal was to have a new relationship. It is possible that someone will just show up and knock on your door. You must answer the door. You could go even further. You could venture out of your home and look for the person of your dreams. Again, ask yourself why? Should you look in a bar or in a church? Why? What type of person are you looking for?

Personal growth is about letting go of false beliefs and becoming your true self. Why? You’ll be happier.

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Learn how you can expand your memory, increase your strength, and improve your speed, by programming your brain.

Once I saw the examples, I knew it was true. We change our brains to incorporate our surroundings. I’ll give you a few examples.

When I first read about the concept of the brain extending to include objects, skis were used as an example. A good skier knows where the tip of the skis are without looking. The skiis have become part of the body.

Something similar happens when we learn to drive a car. Once we have driven a car long enough, our brains expand to include the car. We know whether or not a car will fit into a parking place without thinking.

I watched a man on an excavator. He was using the scoop to sweep the sidewalk. Another man was following up with a broom. I told the man with the broom that I was impressed by the excavator work. He said, “I was too. Until I could do it.” Think about how much that increases the operator’s strength, just because his brain has extended the body of the operator to include the excavator.

Think about using a pencil. You can actually feel the end of the pencil on a sheet of paper. The pencil becomes you.

Your memory isn’t just in your brain. If you have a library of books, all you have to do is remember which book has the answer. Think about your own memory. Doesn’t it sometimes take a while before the memory appears? Are you accessing it from a region in your brain or somewhere else? You could have accessed it from a book or a filing cabinet. Books and filing cabinets are extensions of you. You just program your brain to include them.

Each of those examples require a bit of practice and programming. Eventually the brain’s programming is extended to cover the object.

Now for some interesting questions. Where does it end? Can we extend our programming to include a cloud overhead? Are we really programming our brains? Or, are we simply realizing that we are not limited by our bodies?

Think about brain programming. It takes time and practice to learn to crawl, to walk, to ride a bike, to drive a car, to speak a language, to use a keyboard, to play a piano. How is the programming performed? Who does the programming? The programming requires will on our part. Yet, we don’t know how we do it.

As a senior, I look around at people my age and those who are younger and older. A difference between youth and elderly is how we choose to use our brains. Youth are constantly growing both physically and mentally. Elderly are often not doing anything or only trying to limit the rate of decline both physically and mentally.

I am using my will to act like a youth. I’m learning Spanish, to play the piano, and to use a Mac for writing and video. Physically, I’m performing weight training twice per week. I can see improvement. How long can I continue? My hope is as long as I can use my will.

The goal is to improve spiritually so that when the body fails you can adapt physically and mentally. Will is spiritual. We command our bodies. At some point the body seems to fail to respond to our commands. While practicing chiropractic, I helped many people by improving their spines so that their nervous systems respond to their commands. At some point, perhaps age is the problem.

Don’t give up too soon. You can expand your body. You can expand your memory. As you age, you may have to do it differently. It all starts with will.

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You can be happier, healthier, and wealthier by understanding and utilizing a simple process. In the next couple of minutes, I’ll tell you how.

First, understand the Law of Fair Exchange. When someone gives you something, give something back. Most of us recognize that law. Think of a Christmas party. If there is a gift exchange it goes much better if there is an expected price on the gifts. Imagine one person brings a gift that cost $100 and exchange it with someone who brought a gift that cost $25. Both people are out of balance and will feel the difference.

If someone gives me a compliment, I feel out of balance. I feel I should return the compliment. At the minimum, I say thank you. A simple thank you acknowledges the person and makes them feel better. I feel better too.

The Law of Fair Exchange is used all the time. Sometimes it is used as a bribe and loses its effectiveness. Some businesses send out requests for donations with a dollar bill. They are trying to use the Law of Fair Exchange to get a donation of even more value. In those cases, many people feel they are being manipulated.

It can backfire. I was talking with a friend yesterday. He said that he managed sporting goods stores. A salesman gave him a jacket, and slacks to induce him to sell his sporting goods. He considered it similar to a bribe and refused. The salesman was upset.

Second, look at the Law of Appreciation. We get more of what we appreciate. Think of an asset. A home is a good example. Many of us have taken care of our homes and seen them increase in value. I’ve even written a book about it. Taking care of our homes is an act of appreciation. Even if we don’t sell the home, we can enjoy using it because we have taken care of it.

Think of a vacant home you have seen. The grass is grown too high. The paint is peeling. There is moss on the roof. Eventually water will leak through the roof, and it will be uninhabitable. All because of a lack of appreciation.

Now think of applying the Law of Appreciation to your body. Are you appreciating your body or are you ignoring it. As I write this, my wife is attending a couple of exercise groups. I prefer to exercise alone. Both of us are appreciating our bodies. We are taking care of them. Our muscles are becoming stronger because of our care. We can do more.

Like the house example, we see people every day who haven’t appreciated their bodies. They don’t watch their diets. They don’t exercise. It shows. They become weaker and their lives become more limited.

Imagine combining Fair Exchange with Appreciation. In business, we show our appreciation with dollars. If we are charged too much, we are less likely to go back to the business. If we fail to pay for services, eventually the business will cease to exist.

My boat wouldn’t start last year. I took the battery to the local O’Reilly parts store. They charged and checked it for me for free. It was fine. When I needed a battery for my Jeep, I bought it at O’Reilly. What if I had just gone to a different store for a cheaper battery? If everyone did that, O’Reilly service would cease to exist.

I know someone who went to a furniture store. She sat on all the furniture. She made a choice then bought the couch online. She saved a couple of hundred dollars. What if we all do that? Imagine failing to appreciate the salespeople, the inventory, and the store. Continuation of that will kill local retail. Online will be the only way to purchase.

Pass these concepts along. Some people don’t seem to feel the laws. They abuse the Law of Fair Exchange by giving hoping to get more back. Or they receive without giving anything back. Make them aware of the laws and if they continue abusing them, drop them from your life.

Put the laws into practice. Show your appreciation for good service by paying a little extra, tip a little more. Thank people often. Send out thank you cards. Take care of your assets. Your appreciation will come back to you, and you will be happier, healthier, and wealthier.

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A black friend of mine posted on Facebook that he refused to pick the cotton from a bottle of aspirin. It made me smile. It was a great example of how differently we can view ourselves. No job is beneath me.

My first job was cleaning my father’s office once per week for a dollar. I was so little that my mother had to wring the mop for me.

I learned to hunt and fish. Part of that was learning to clean fish and game. It is messy business.

My parents bought a farm when I was about 14 years old. I loved it. I learned to drive a tractor. I milked a cow. I helped my father castrate roosters and pigs. I cleaned the barnyard and distributed the manure to a field for crops. I helped deliver a calf.

While a man was leveling the yard around the house, the tractor wheel found the septic tank. The lid mashed down and sent a small portion of the contents back through the toilet with enough force to hit the ceiling. Dad decided to empty the septic tank. He handed me full buckets, and I dumped them into a 55-gallon barrel to take to the field. The picture at the top is a septic tank.

I learned to work on my car. I changed shock absorbers, replaced brakes, changed oil, overhauled a carburetor, changed plugs, and set points. I replaced the headliner and seat covers. I even painted my car!

My first job minimum wage job at the Independence Airport. I cleaned the office, mowed the grass, and fueled planes. I also gave wind advisories to pilots over the radio.

My second job was working for Star Foam. I made polystyrene products. The polystyrene came as small beads that looked like salt. The beads would expand when steam was applied. If we wanted to fill bean bag chairs, the beads just went through an expander. If we wanted flotation or insulation, we pre-expanded the beads to the size of BBs then put them into a mold. Steam was applied and the beads expanded and fused. In the summer, I would be working with steam while it might be over 100 degrees Fahrenheit outside. There was no air conditioning. We did use fans. I sweated through the day.

Then I went to college. My first job was at IBM. I was trained to be a system’s engineer. After three years, I quit that to go to chiropractic college.

However, that early training of dirty jobs helped me throughout my life. I’m not too good to do anything.

Ben, my second oldest son, was surprised and a little appalled when I wrapped a garbage bag around my arm and stuck my hand down our septic tank to find the filter that needed to be cleaned. That didn’t bother me a bit.

With all that as background, imagine how I felt when my front desk employee didn’t want to clean the restrooms or make coffee. She thought those jobs were beneath her. I said, “Who do you think cleaned the restrooms and made coffee yesterday? It was me.” She said, “You just want me to do the jobs that you don’t want to do.” I said, “Yes. That is the way the world works. An entrepreneur does everything until they make enough money to hire someone. Then the employee does things that free up the entrepreneur to be more productive. You can’t see patients. You can learn to make coffee and clean the restrooms.”

I suspect it is people with low self-esteem that believe jobs are beneath them. They don’t have self-confidence. My friend, Gary, gave me an insight. I told him about the water filter for my fishpond.

We bought a pump and filter from a store. I was having trouble taking it apart to clean it. I went back to the store and asked the owner how to take the filter apart. He took one out of the box and showed me. Next time we were in the store, I thanked the owner and told him about the silly mistake I was making. He looked at me and said, “Most people wouldn’t admit that.”

When I told Gary the story, he said, “We call that self-confidence. You know you are okay. You can say anything to anybody because you don’t care what they think. You know you are okay.”

There is probably something to that.

I am very grateful that my father taught me that no job is beneath me. I wonder about people who believe they are “too good” to do some jobs. They often want to do something that they either don’t have the talent or the training to do.

I’ll close with a story a man told me. His son graduated from the University of Washington and was trying to make it in Seattle. He was having no luck. He came back to Bellingham and went to the Bellingham Technical College. He made more money as an appliance repair man than he was making with his UW diploma. In addition, his expenses were much lower in Bellingham than they were in Seattle.

Do you know someone who could benefit from this article? Send it to them. Sometimes what seems like a job that is a rung down the ladder, can result in a lifestyle that is several rungs higher.

We can no longer believe anything. A friend of mine posted on Facebook, “I saw it with my own two eyes.” I don’t believe that he actually witnessed what happened. He saw an image or a video of what was claimed to have happened. He instantly believed what he saw.

It is difficult not to believe the videos and photos that we see. Afterall, it might be true. We are more likely to believe something if we are predisposed to see it.

Some people might look at the above picture and see ICE agents. Some will see the reality that they are NICE officers. Where do NICE officers come from? Who controls them?

I created the image in under 2 minutes using Grok. It looks quite realistic. Yet it was quickly created from my imagination. I started out to demonstrate how easily I could create a video of police doing nefarious things. However, I didn’t want something that I created to get out of hand. So, I created NICE officers waving at you.

If a nearly 71-year-old (birthday Monday) man can create a realistic looking image in 2 minutes, imagine what a younger person with real skills can do. Be skeptical.

Here is the big deal, get control of your mind. If you are skeptical, you have begun the process of separation. An interesting thing begins to happen. When your emotions are extremely heightened, your reasoning ability is lowered. So, by lowering your emotional attachment, you begin to improve your reasoning ability. Mild to moderate emotion can be an aid. You can have gut reactions that can help inform your decisions.

However, the emotional, knee-jerk reaction has probably not been informed by reason. That begins a cascade that is difficult to overcome. Another problem we crave consistency. We have trouble admitting that we are wrong. So, if we make a knee-jerk decision, we are more likely to continue that action.

I read that is a brain washing technique. A person is asked questions that lead them to an answer. Then more questions are asked building on that answer. The questions and answers continue in a successful direction because we refuse to admit that we were wrong. Well did you lie the other day when you said …? Then, isn’t it true that …?

Slow down and think. Question your beliefs. Many times, we are being played. I’ll give you a simple example.

When my wife was teaching, she played CNN news to her students. CNN edited the news for kids. After a debate between Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump, my wife let the students watch the CNN edited version. She came home and told me that Clinton immediately went over and shook hands with the moderator and Trump refused to shake hands. My wife said, “Kids pick up on things like that.” I told her that CNN edited Trump out. I watched the entire thing. Trump saw that Clinton was shaking hands with the moderator and he shook hands with someone else and waited his turn.

Did CNN lie? No. Did they edit the video so that students would think Trump did not have the decency to shake hands with the moderator? Yes. Was that a lie? Yes. That is propaganda.

Images and videos can be created from imagination, just like the image I created. They can also be created by taking something real and editing it to give an impression.

Someone asked how I am evaluating news. After watching NBC Nightly News for years, I saw the reporters absolutely melt-down on election night 2016. I quit watching network news. I began following AP and Reuters. I discovered they were just a bad. They both reported that President Biden was “sharp as a tack.” We all learned differently.

I switched to X.com. I follow NBC, CBS, Reuters, AP. I also follow individual politicians on both sides. I see what they actually say in their posts rather than clips that the news outlets want me to believe that they say. I also follow Canadian politics. I follow Prime Minister Carney and his conservative opponent Pierre Poilievre. I also follow Premier Smith (Alberta), and Premier Eby (B.C.)

On X people can say what they want and others can respond. Sometimes falsehoods or fake images are quickly exposed. I have learned a lot.

In fact, Prime Minister Carney posted a video the other day that had me really evaluating the “New World Order.” Sounds like something out of Star Wars. I’ll create a post once I’ve thought about it more.

This post is about personal growth. Question yourself. Question your beliefs. Question what you see and think. Look for truth and become the person that you really want to be.

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Happy New Year!!

Welcome to Spiz Academy 2026.

The Academy is based on the idea that you have free will. You can choose what you you think. Therefore, if given good reason/evidence you can make better decisions. You can change your life.

If you don’t have free will, you are stuck. Like the dog in the picture, you can’t give up what you already believe. No matter what evidence is presented, you will not change your mind. In fact, people who are stuck often get upset.

I’ll give you an example. A friend of mine shared a post on Facebook about social security. It was the standard nonsense about it being your money and the government had wasted it, blah, blah, blah. I told him that the post was nonsense and gave him the link to my article on social security.

He could not accept that he was wrong, even after pointing everything out and providing the history. In fact, I couldn’t tell that he had read the article.

He is obviously NOT going to be a reader/learner at Spiz Academy. If you like to look at things from a different angle, you may find you like it here. If you disagree with what you see, feel free to comment. Most articles are free. Some require a paid membership to comment.

There is no advertising on Substack. Substack and I make money on subscriptions. So, occasionally I provide content for paid subscribers only.

I will also provide links to my courses on Udemy or Chirocredit for those who might be interested.

Let me know what you’d like me to take a look at.

Right now, I’m studying for the general ham radio license. I passed the technician license last year. I want to apply what I’m learning to how our body works. Do we pass information/control our bodies similar to radios? I think so.

I’m planning to offer more video content this year. Still working on the home studio but hope to have it running soon.

Welcome to 2026!! Let me know how you’re doing and what you’d like to see.

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I know what it’s like to be down. I’ve had the foreclosure letters. I’ve had the debt collectors calling.

Many years ago, I read that the average millionaire has gone bankrupt 1.5 times. Problem is not letting the down times get you down.

Chris, my brother-in-law is going through a down time. He sold his house and wants to live on a boat and travel in a motorhome. He is very particular. He knows what he wants. He found a motorhome and made the purchase. Yesterday, we drove about 80 miles to pick it up.

It is a used RV. It seemed to be in great shape and was just what he wanted. I dropped him off and headed home. I told him that I planned to stop at Angel of the Winds casino on my way home.

Angel of the Winds is a wonderful place to stop. When I’m going to Seattle it is about halfway home. I like to stop and use the restroom. If I have time, I might eat and gamble a little. If I’m in a hurry, I often get a latte. Although I wasn’t in a hurry, I just got a latte to go.

After I got back on the freeway, Chris called me. He asked where I was. Fortunately, because of the stop, I was behind him. The RV had begun to shake so badly that he pulled off the road. I only had to travel four or five miles to find him.

He had already called the seller, and the seller was on his way. Chris thought that the engine was out of oil. He didn’t see any on the dipstick.

The seller called and Chris looked under the RV. I watched from my car. I must admit that the thought crossed my mind - Chris just can’t get a break. The oil plug and filter were in place. No signs of a leak. Chris got back into my car and saw a paper towel. He used it to check the oil. Sure enough, the oil was fine.

The seller showed up. They talked and seller took it for a short drive. By short, I mean across the street. Then both of them got in and drove across the freeway. They parked the RV along the entrance to the freeway going back southbound and walked back to the car.

Chris got into my car and told me what was happening. The seller is going to get a trailer and take the RV back to his garage. He will check the drive train and fix it. He will also change the timing belt to make sure there won’t be any other problems.

Chris said, “Looks like I may have bought a lemon.”

I said, “That’s one way of looking at it. Another is that you’re lucky to have found the RV you really want. You are lucky that it failed so soon after you bought it and the seller is going to fix it. In addition, you are lucky that he is also going to replace the timing belt.”

Chris said, “Yeah. I’m also lucky you stopped for coffee. You could have been in Bellingham by now.”

I told him about the station wagon I bought that the break light came on before I got it home. The dealer fixed it but it needed a master cylinder every few years. It was still a great car.

I also bought a Ford that a mechanic checked for me. Within weeks of the purchase, it needed valve work. I put a lot of miles on it too.

I reminded him of the Ford van that we had. It threw a bearing on the way to visit his parents. It was banging while we were going over the mountain. I stopped in Merrit and asked a gas station attendant what he thought. He recommended STP in the oil. I did that and drove around the block. I went back and the owner of the station came out to help me.

He listened to the engine and said, “You’ve thrown a rod.”

I said, “What does that mean?”

He said, “It means you’re done.”

“I can’t be done. I’ve got four kids in the van and about 8 more hours to drive. Can I rent a car?”

“You’re in luck. I’ve got the only rental car in town.”

“I’ll take it.”

We walked into the station and the assistant said, “That guy wants to rent a car.”

The owner looked at him and said, “You’re out of luck. I just rented it to this guy.”

The station also had a mechanic. Chris had forgotten that he helped me find an engine and shipped it to the mechanic. It all worked out fine.

I’m hoping that all works out well for Chris. He seemed to have a good attitude when I dropped him off. I plan to drive him to get the RV when it is ready. Unfortunately, the dealer is right on the river and is expected to be flooded out this weekend. Another delay.

Positive thinking doesn’t mean we don’t have problems. It just helps us get through them. It helps us keep on keeping on when all seems lost.

It is rare that success magically happens to someone without going through tough times. When it does happen, the tough times often come later.

Often when times are tough it is difficult to ask for help. In my experience, that is the first step in turning things around. Think about who you can call on. Don’t expect to be saved without doing anything. There is probably something you will need to do or change.

Imagine being in a well. You can’t get out. You finally ask for help. Someone lowers a ladder. You still must climb out. Then, if you’re smart, and you stay positive, you’ll try to avoid the next hole. If you turn negative, you will quit in fear.

Positive thinking is the secret of success.

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The world is a looking-glass, and gives back to every man the reflection of his own face. Frown at it, and it will look sourly upon you; laugh at it and with it, and it is a jolly kind companion; and so let all young persons take their choice.

William Makepeace Thackeray

A process I have used for my own personal growth is to ask myself, “Am I like that?”

It is impossible to have personal growth without self-awareness. Many don’t care. They want to change the world but fail to understand that the world changes when they change.

If you want to see kindness, be kind.

If you want to be loved, love first.

If you want to see people laugh, start laughing.

Have you seen someone yelling and cursing as he walks down the street? If so, how does that make you feel? I have been in that situation. The yelling made me feel angry. I walked away. Perhaps I should have tried to help. I did not. Much later, the man walked up to me on the street. He had been off his meds. When he asked for help, I wanted to help. He was hoping that I was an attorney. I am not.

If you cannot help, at least don’t contribute to the problem. Am I like that?

Are you angry? Many people are looking for others to join them. They want to be angry together. They want to feel the hormones surging through their bodies. They don’t care if they are right. Is that the person you want to be? Is that the world you want to see?

One way the brain works is through pattern recognition. We find what we are looking for. An example is when I pick up dog poop in my yard. I have a pattern of what dog poop looks like. Poop looks a lot like the cones the trees are dropping in my yard. Sometimes I am momentarily deceived.

Similarly, when you look for liars and cheaters, you find what you are looking for. If someone makes something up that you agree with, you are ready to pass it on. You get a hormone rush. You feel great. Is that the society you want?

Can you see that the world is your looking glass? You see what you are looking for!

Does that mean there is no corruption? Is there no hate? Is it all in my mind? Why do I see a world that I don’t like?

Ask the question, Am I like that?

Is the world presenting you with a mirror to help you change?

The second question is even more profound, What if I’m wrong?

We watched an episode of the show Ballard last night. Ballard is a female detective who had been sexually assaulted by another officer. She was in a bar and saw a waitress being harassed by a man. She started to get up to intervene. Then the waitress bent over and kissed the man. Ballard realized that she was seeing what she was looking for. Fortunately, she realized that she was wrong - just in time.

What if I’m wrong? The question that hit me like a gut punch late one night was only slightly different, “What if everything I know is wrong?”

Imagine that! I had a B.A. in chemistry. I had an MBA. I had a Doctor of Chiropractic. That was a lot of education. What if everything I know is wrong? My life began to change. I had an experience of talking with my spirit guides through a medium. I met a woman who was capable of mental telepathy. I worked with energy healers. I participated in a sweat lodge. My personal growth was extraordinary.

Care more about truth than you do about being right. There is no harm in being wrong. Just change. People will respect you more if you can change your mind based on evidence.

If you want to grow, if you want to be happy, if you want to change the world, ask yourself two questions.

Am I like that?

What if I’m wrong?

If you’re like me, you’ll find your world changes.

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Writers do their best to create headlines that will get your attention. Advertisers want your click to get to the next screen and sell you something. We live in a world of distractions.

Yes, I too succumb. For me focus is a little different. I retired to focus on spending time with my wife. I have other things I’m working on. However, that has been a priority.

Today I wanted to study and write an article. I’m taking a course to get my technicians amateur radio license. I recently received the book, The Universal One, by Walter Russell.

After breakfast, my spine exercises, walking my dogs, and weight training, Mandy and I went to Bellingham. She is looking for some grasses to put in pots around the house. I wanted to look for paint for my aluminum boat. That took a few hours.

Of course, all the news is a distraction. I spent some time there. I came up to my office and read a couple of chapters of The Universal One. Meditated for 30 minutes. Then began this article.

Just minutes ago, I got a text, possibly from a friend I haven’t seen for years. I took time to read it. It was about a shift in consciousness that we are going through. The text said that we are participating in an evolutionary leap that can be tracked in EEGs of people around the world. “Humanity is learning to function as a collective intelligence while maintaining our individual perspectives and contributions.”

Distraction?

The Universal One is a similar message. The book was first copyrighted in 1926.

I created a device, based on Walter Russell’s writings in 1997. I believe it has a positive effect on our brains.

The amateur radio course teaches how to build a radio. Some of it is a review of physics I learned in college. I am hoping that it will help me learn how to best help us go through the changes that are happening.

The earth’s electromagnetic field is changing. It may go through a flip with the north pole becoming the south pole and vice versa. It reverses every 200,000-300,000 years and last flipped about 780,000 years ago (according to Bing).

If we think of the brain as a radio - a sending and receiving station - is it any wonder that humanity is struggling?

Now back to the point of this article. Which are distractions? Which are things that I needed to work on today? Notice I completed by exercises. I spent hours with my wife. I studied. I had information coming to me that might indicate I’m on the right track.

The distractions were the current events over which I have no control. Based on my life experience, healing humanity will not be based on chemistry. It will be electro-magnetism. We must change our brains to adapt to the new world that is coming.

How about you? Are you seeing things happening that you want to focus on? Are you limiting the distractions?

Stay tuned!!

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We were at the ice cream store. My two-year-old granddaughter was opening the freezer doors. I told her not to do that because she was letting the cold out. Suddenly the door banged into my elbow and gave me the old familiar “funny bone” feeling. I turned around and saw her smiling and swinging on the door. I grabbed her by the arm and said, “No!” I didn’t yell but was pretty firm.

She stood by her dad for a minute. Her dad picked her up and she began to cry. He looked at me and said, “That’s too much for a baby.”

My wife looked at me and said, “That’s too much for a baby.”

I was being told No!

I didn’t like it much either.

My brain immediately did what most of our brains do. It began defending my actions. She did stop. She wasn’t stopping. She doesn’t seem to pay attention to anybody else.

Do children need more forceful discipline? I looked at my older grandchildren. They seem to be turning out alright.

So, rather than being right, I asked myself, “What if I’m wrong? What could I have done differently?”

I certainly could have used a softer tone. I could have explained that she hurt me by hitting me with the door. She would have understood. She wouldn’t want to hurt her grandpa.

Next time, I’ll take that approach. I’ve done something similar in the past.

However, I also think we need to experiment a little. What is working?

A family brought their children to my office for chiropractic care. They were constantly yelling at the kids. I knew there were no consequences at home. The children hadn’t learned discipline.

Aren’t the children who don’t learn discipline at home also the difficult children in the classroom? How do we teach discipline?

I have raised four children and now watch seven grandchildren. I don’t think there is a one way to teach discipline. Different things motivate different people. I also know there are stages of development. Some children will change as they get older.

I have seen reasoning work with one of my grandkids at a very early age. Much earlier than I would have imagined. On the other hand, if a child doesn’t respond to reasoning, some other consequence must be found. That will depend on the child.

What about adults? I certainly wasn’t told No! I was given the reason why my action was too much. A first response was to be right. However, after studying my thinking and my actions, I decided to change.

What if I didn’t? Are adults any different than children? Hopefully, adults reason their way to better behavior. I didn’t want to be told again. How often do we choose to defend our actions rather than change? Too often, I think.

I had an interaction with my neighbor today. We had some trees trimmed. One is on the property line between us. So, I asked her about climbing the tree. She agreed. Another tree is on her property but had a dead branch extending over our fence. She agreed to have the branch taken off at the trunk. I thought it was a good time to ask her about extending the fence. She couldn’t talk about it. She is still upset that we replaced the chain link fence with cedar. She was trying to claim the property to the fence line. We own about a foot and a half on her side of the fence. I only replaced about half the fence. I didn’t know where the property line was. Now that I know where the property line is, I want to replace the rest.

In her mind, I took her land. She thinks she was “grandfathered in” because the fence was there when she bought the house. When we moved in, she told us that the fence wasn’t on the line and that former owners let her use the land. We were okay with that. She had planted flowers and bushes right along the fence. Eventually, I realized that she was trying to take my property. I tried to explain the law to her. I told her that I wanted to build something that she would be happy with. We couldn’t discuss it.

Why do I mention my neighbor? It is another instance of being told no. I’m not going to let her take my land. She is not happy. She is creating discomfort in her life. Would she be happier if she could consider - what if I’m wrong? I think she would be.

Whether children or adults, consider how you tell people no. If you are being told no, consider how you handle it. What should you do differently?

Life is all about positive and negative reinforcement. Learn and grow!

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I attended a Paul Simon concert last night. (The picture is not from the concert.) Before the concert, I really couldn’t say that I was a fan. I enjoyed some of his songs. Last night he started with about half an hour of new material. That led to some of his hits and his favorite songs. The first half hour helped me see the spiritual side of Paul Simon. Once I saw it, I saw it in other songs as well.

His purpose last night seemed to be to advocate for God’s love and acceptance for all. Simon accomplishes his purpose through his music. The venue had a seating capacity of around 2500. It seemed nearly full. He is performing six nights. He is selling his message - not giving it away. He is in business. You can have a spiritual purpose and be successful in business.

How about you? What is your purpose?

Sometimes we get caught up in other things. We forget. We need to be reminded. I was reminded last night. I saw many fans swaying to the music. I wonder how many were reminded.

Try to imagine unconditional love. It is difficult to imagine. The message I was given is that there is no judgement. God is not judging you. Some Christians talk about unconditional love and believe we can only receive God’s love through Jesus’ death on the cross. If that were true, God’s love is conditional. It is not. God understands.

Each of us is given talents and struggles. That is the game. Some of us have more talents than others. Some of us have more struggles than others. Some of us will seek God. Some will not.

You can make choices without judgement. By judgement I mean believing that you are choosing between good and evil. Most of your judgements are brain programs put in place before you were seven. When you get beyond thinking, you are beyond judgement and find peace.

Make choices that make you happy. Seek fulfillment. Seek your heart’s desire. With all your seeking, also seek to minimize harm.

That can be tricky. We can often analyze a situation and rationalize that what we are doing is minimizing harm, when time will tell that there were unintended consequences.

Enter the Goldilocks principles. Private action can be harmful by theft. Public action can be harmful by waste. Political action can be harmful by oppression. Foreign action can be harmful by invasion. Governing action can be harmful when unsustainable.

Takeaways:

It is okay to make money, while delivering a spiritual message.
God’s love is unconditional.
You are much more than you believe.
Seek happiness while minimizing harm.
Beyond thinking is no judgement and peace.

The last song last night was Sounds of Silence.

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Success is defined as accomplishing an aim or purpose. The first step is to choose a goal. It is best if the goal is measurable. Otherwise, how do you know when it has been accomplished? Second step is to formulate a plan for getting there. An important part of the plan is having measurable small goals within the plan. If all goes well, you implement the plan. You complete the steps. You achieve the goal. Pretty simple. So, why do so many people fail?

It is rare that life goes according to plan. Then what?

Do you give up on your goal? Do you admit defeat? Or do you change the plan?

“I’m just not lucky.” I heard a man make that comment. I don’t believe it was true. First, he was born male. Second, he was born white. Third, he is taller than average. Fourth, he went to college. Fifth, he was admitted to a Ph.D. program. In my opinion, that is evidence of being in the top category of lucky. However, when he was confronted with adversity during his Ph.D. research, he dropped out. He became a tradesman. Why? “I’m not lucky.”

Contrast that to another man. Similar background. Faced adversity during Ph.D. program. He needed several hundred thousand dollars to fix his equipment. He buckled down and found the money. Not only that, but he also spent 8 years to get his Ph.D. Now he is a senior scientist for a startup energy company.

Luck? I don’t think so. I think it comes down to will power.

Will power is directing energy to accomplish our goals. Obstacles come up. We must either find the energy to overcome the obstacles or the energy to go around them. Flexibility, changing the plan without changing the goal, is key.

Another example is my physique goal. My father wore a size 44 jacket and 34 waist slacks. That is a 10-inch difference between chest and waist. The average for a man is 6 inches. I set my father’s physique as my goal. Dad was 6 feet tall. I’m 5 foot 9 inches. My goal should be according to our height.

Four or five years ago, I began lifting weights. I started with a gallon of water. Slowly, I moved up to 2.5 gallons of water. I switched from water to sand. I was getting stronger. I wasn’t improving my measurements much. I hurt myself. I quit while I healed.

Then I got the idea of exercising using concepts from isometrics. For example, I put my palms together in front of my chest and pushed as hard as possible. While holding that pressure, I moved my arms over my head, etc. I developed a routine that took about 5 minutes.

While at Walmart, I tried lifting a 40-pound weight. Couldn’t do it. I started doing the workout morning and night. After a year, I tried lifting the 40-pound weight. I curled it by cheating a little. It hurt my shoulder slightly. I doubled my workout to 10 minutes morning and night. After a year, I could barely curl the 40-pound weight without cheating. I began dieting. I got up to about an 7.5-inch chest - waist difference. In total, that took more than three years. I didn’t get hurt.

I dieted down to my high school weight. I was 147 in April. In May, I went with my wife to a seated yoga class. I was late and my wife brought the left-over 8-pound and 5-pound dumbbells to use. Although my relatives were impressed, they were using 2-pounds, I was a little embarrassed. I was much weaker than I expected.

Weight training has worked for me in the past. I get stronger quickly. I was resistant to buying weights or exercising longer. How much energy am I willing to expend? How badly to I want to change? Do I have the will to succeed?

I decided to buy a set of selectable dumbbells. I am exercising for 1 hour per day four days per week. I have now completed 9 weeks. I have gained about 10 pounds. My waist is about the same as my lowest weight. My goal is to improve on every workout. I either do one more rep or I add more weight. I’m now at the point where I must be careful not to get hurt. My chest-waist difference is about 8 inches. It is still a slow go.

I do feel different. It is interesting to feel muscles working as I walk. It is fun to know I have doubled my strength. Obviously, in addition to my measurements, I am tracking what weight I am lifting and how many reps. I am also tracking how much I weigh.

I haven’t reached my goal yet. I’m plugging away. Writing this has helped me remember to keep on keeping on.

When I’m pushing to accomplish those last few reps, I also keep in mind that I don’t want to be injured. Very rarely, I stop short of the daily goal. I give myself more time. I’m being flexible - not giving up.

If you are facing defeat, I hope you find some encouragement. Sometimes we need a little help to see how to be more flexible. Let me know if I can help.

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I walked into Costco in Vancouver, a few months ago. I saw a 2-foot square panel to cover walls. The panel had wood slats that were separated to show a black background. The panel was also designed to suppress sound. I bought enough to cover a wall in my home office. I thought it might look good as a backdrop for videos and calls.

As soon as I used it for a practice video, I knew it wasn’t going to work. Two weeks ago, I attended a meeting of Goldilocks Revolution and was told I looked like I was in jail. I started thinking about what I could do differently.

My office is about 100 square feet. I have a couple of bookcases that I considered giving away. I wanted to keep the books, so that didn’t make much sense. I had an old-style computer desk and a stand-up desk. I decided to let the computer desk go. That freed up about 20 square feet.

It went amazingly well. I emptied the desk. Moved things around and took pictures of it. I posted it on Craigslist. Then I took it apart and put it on the front porch. Today it has a new home.

Yesterday, I tried using a wall with a dormer window in it as my backdrop. It was just too weird. I have a frame for a backdrop. I found black backdrop drapes on Amazon. The truck pulled up to deliver the drapes as the truck left with the desk. Great timing!

Looks like it will work pretty well.

Some people refuse to grow and change. Being flexible is one of the best qualities you can develop. However, as the wall panel proved, what looks like it might work well may not. Just move on and take the next step.

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Last week, I called a local mechanic to have the oil in our Jeep changed. They were a week out and I thought I might want to be quicker than that, so I didn’t schedule. Mandy said that we weren’t in any hurry. We use the Jeep to pull our travel trailer, and we had no trips planned. I forgot to call and schedule. Suddenly, we needed the Jeep for several short trips.

I scheduled an oil change with Walmart in Bellingham yesterday. The time schedule was for 12:30 today. Mandy and her sister went to exercise at about 10 and I decided to exercise too. My weight routine is taking a little longer. I force myself to rest for two and a half minutes between sets.

I didn’t get started until about 10:30. Finished about 11:30. Showered. Started warming up the car, while I packed my computer to do a little writing. (Warming up a diesel is a good idea before driving. So, I’m told.) Woods Coffee is my favorite local franchise. One is close to Walmart. My plan was to go there, get a coffee and write until my car was ready.

Mandy and her sister were planning to meet their siblings in Bellingham at 1:00. I might join them after the oil change.

I knew I was running a little late. I took a chance on changing my course. Of course, road work was being done. I was stopped for a minute for one way traffic.

Walmart doesn’t carry the oil filter for the Jeep. O’Reily auto parts is right beside Woods. Plan was to stop there, get the filter and go to appointment.

Time was running very close. Should I go to Walmart, check in, then go get the filter? Decided at last minute that I had time to get the filter.

No customers in store. Told the woman at the counter what I needed and realized I had forgotten my wallet. Damn! That flushes the whole event.

Got in my car to go to Walmart to check in and see if they had the filter. What else could I do? I got the thought: Call Mandy and have her give me the credit card number over the phone. She agreed.

Back into O’Reilly. Can you take a credit card over the phone? Sure. Mandy called me back. I bought the filter. Got to Walmart at 12:28.

Mandy agreed to stop by and bring my wallet on her way to meet her siblings.

Checked in at Walmart. Stood around and waited. Decided to walk to Woods. I could sit there and wait for my wallet. Sat down and Mandy called. She was five minutes away. Told her to come to Woods. She drove into the parking lot and her sister, Kit, handed me my wallet.

Back into Woods and ordered an iced mocha. Sat down with computer. Got a text that my car was ready.

Back to Walmart to get car. Nobody was there to take my money. Pressed the screen several times to call for assistance. Went to restroom. It was being cleaned. Went back to pay. Still nobody.

Asked a waiting customer if he had seen anybody at counter. He had. I walked a bit. Went back. Man was there to take my money.

Got in car. Message still says - Oil Change Required. Back to talk to mechanic. He tried three times and couldn’t clear message.

Back to car. Looked up how to clear oil change required. First video didn’t work. Second video same as first. Third video worked.

Called Mandy. They were just getting started on a walk. She told me how to find them.

I drove around Walmart and decided to come home. I hadn’t done any writing. Called Mandy and told her my change in plans. Went back into Walmart. Used the restroom and bought a new mouse for computer.

Came home to write this.

We all have days like that. Some would have gone home after realizing the wallet was forgotten. Some would be upset with themselves. Their whole day would have been ruined.

It is times like that when we must be open to allowing the solution to our problems to come to us. The solution was easy and happened so quickly I was still on time.

The car was ready so quickly I didn’t have a chance to write. Some would have been upset about that.

Some would have been upset that nobody was there to take my money.

Some would have been upset that the restroom was being cleaned.

Some would have been upset that the Oil Change Required message was still on.

I wasn’t upset by any of those things.

In the end, I realized that I have spent a lot of time with my in-laws over the past two weeks. Coming home to write was a good use of my time.

Flexibility is adapting. How can you accomplish your goals in spite of your plans not working?

Emotion and being rigid shuts down your intelligence and creativity. How can you get around the obstacle? Wait for an answer. Then, flow around the obstacle.

That is what some of us mean by being in the flow. It doesn’t mean that everything is easy. It means that everything becomes magical - if you let it. If you are willing to see the magic.

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Last summer, I visited friends and family in the Midwest. My former partner at IBM told me that his hobby is ham radio. That perked my interest. I had an FCC license when I took flying lessons and worked at the Independence Airport.

Then I saw an announcement that the Whatcom County Sheriff’s office is looking for volunteers for their emergency communications program. Today was the first meeting. About 21 people showed up. I learned the importance of amateur radio in emergency situations.

I also learned that there are numerous clubs for people of different interests who are ham radio enthusiasts. I will be studying to take the test to get my ham radio license. I look forward to being part of the emergency response team.

In addition, I have enrolled in training for the Whatcom County Community Emergency Response Team (CERT). This training will involve being active in coordinating the response at the scene of a disaster. With both trainings, I will be able to respond and communicate what is happening at the scene.

In a previous post, I mentioned volunteering to make new friends. Here is an example of a way to learn something new, meet new people, and be of service to the community.

Your community may also need volunteers to operate ham radios. Whatcom County is offering training for the license. No equipment is needed. In case of emergency, volunteers can go to the local center to obtain mobile equipment or stay in the center to coordinate the response.

I may decide to buy a radio. I like the idea of communicating with people around the world.

What are you learning for personal growth? Will your growth help you help others? People who help other people are some of the most fun people to be around. Find your group and have some fun!

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